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I honestly could just use some commiseration. About anything. Lol

Anyone else ever have a regular/long term client get super weird on them outta nowhere to the point you might have to cut contact/grey rock up?

And then it discourages you from bonding with anyone new cos you're trying to avoid the "wEiRd" connection from happening again?

Might just be my opinion but I don't think people go into this job cos they're unlikable and rude people. Ha. Its not weird people end up liking a cam model or admiring them or even a reasonable crush seems okay to me..

Obviously its very natural to grow fond of someone you interact with virtually & socially especially when it goes into the sexual realm but there's a space between reality and cam. That boundary is important to keep up for yourself/myself. I expect the people I interact with will have terrible boundaries with this and keep my guard UP so its rare this happens but it is def happening and I'm bummed about it.

I love this job but legit can't get over how disappointing it is when people who are fun to interact with lose the plot and one-sidedly sabotage the relationship by getting creepy.

Bonus Points: if they said they fell in love with you/wanted a 'real' relationship/kept insisting to meet. What a buzzkill. And yes, the two latter ones are blockable offenses for me. I don't have time to explain to a guy in the UK why saying we should meet is at best ridiculous and at worst creepy as hell.

as a note: I do believe its possible to fall in love with someone over the internet, but not when its with their cam persona/web presence/curated reality. Also, I'm not even a romantically attracted person so all of this just totally strikes me as the wEiRd and I could use some romantically attracted people to explain to me how and when this makes any sense at all cos just cos I mentioned to someone I went to a park on my day off and saw a cool frog does not explain to me why they seem in love with me now... lol

RANTS about how clients romanticize the cam model experience/think they know the REAL you:

1) The rude/bad boundary/delusional? guys really think we just sit around what? weather watching? besides showing off for them? that we're all just WAITING for the RIGHT GUY to come into our chat to sweep us away and then we'll work at Target?? Cue the opening credits of pretty woman. FML. I'm over it.

2)I am NOT my cam persona. This is my job. I perform very naturalistically most of the time and consider my cam persona my personality and interests but BOOSTED... but no, I am not just the horniest dude you've ever met 24/7 and no I am not wowed constantly by your presence.

Anyway, thanks for reading. Feel free to rant about whatever in the comments cos I def could use a lil rant fest. Hope u have a good stream and make all the tips! <3

TLDR; cam clients get weird about love and relationships and mess up a good thing and its not your or my fault people have bad boundaries. Upholding boundaries is burn-out prevention and self-protection! I am def close to burn out and doing my best to not get super jaded so please lmk it is NOT just me! Thanks!